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Precious Moments

Candid: taking time to delight in our children

by Leslie Ludy

The other day the kids were talking about what they might be when they grew up. They are still at the age where they completely believe that they can be a full-time missionary, full-time veterinarian, full-time explorer, and full-time painter all at once, so the conversation was filled with epic and exciting visions for their futures. Rees and Lily, both three, listened quietly to the conversation for several minutes, and finally Lily announced confidently, “When I grow up, I’m gonna be a doggie!” Rees quickly chimed in, “When I grow up, I’m gonna be a giraffe!” After the giggles from the other kiddos subsided, I informed the three-year-olds that it was not possible for a human to become an animal. They listened patiently to my logical explanation, and then stood firm in their position happily stating once again: “When I grow up, I’m gonna be a doggie!” (“And I’m gonna be a giraffe!”)

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to miss these precious moments and sweet little memories. As busy moms, we often overlook the preciousness of our children unless we take the time to savor and enjoy them. Instead of focusing on the challenges of parenting or on a discipline issue, we must remember that these munchkins truly are a blessing from the hand of God, not just a duty or responsibility. As I shared in my book Set Apart Motherhood, I’m a fan of order, structure, and discipline in the home. But I don’t believe those things should ever become our end goal. Rather, they simply help enable a mother to spend time on what truly matters. Titus 2:4-5 says, “Admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers . . .” Becoming an excellent homemaker is of great importance in God’s eyes, but it’s not at the top of the list—loving our husband and children must come first. We can show love to our spouse and kids by tending to their practical needs, making our home a sanctuary, and building a stable routine for them. But we must also show love to them by spending purposeful time with them, becoming a trusted depository for their hopes, dreams, and struggles, and appreciating the unique person they are becoming.

This week I’d like to share a video clip from our Set Apart Motherhood conference, in which I offer practical ways to slow down and delight in your children. I pray it will be a refreshing reminder that no matter how busy or stressful life becomes, your children are a precious gift from God to enjoy and treasure.